Solace in Solitude.
You glow your own way.
Being alone. Keeping to yourself and not speaking much. Growing up, I experienced such behaviour being looked down upon.
“That quiet is okay, as long as I wasn’t afraid to be loud” — this quote, from one of my favourite sitcoms — This is Us, got me thinking. Why is solitude perceived the way it is?
I believe it is because most people don’t understand the difference between Solitude and Loneliness.
Quite simply, loneliness is attached with notes of melancholy due to isolation whereas solitude is contemplative and even cheerful at times. People can be alone and still be on top of the world as they found their niche in solitude or as I like to call it — “Solace in Solitude” :)
The catch is that a lot of people experiencing loneliness console themselves that they have achieved solitude. This can lead to a vicious cycle of denial and subsequently depression.
Hence, a lot of young kids are discouraged by their parents to spend all their time alone because of this sole reason. Another catch: A person can be around people and still feel lonely!
Therefore, recognizing loneliness become a complex and hard process. However, If you truly believe a person is suffering from “Loneliness Lament” or just “Loneliness” for that matter, help them overcome it to either reach a state of solitude or be generally happy.
“Ordinary men hate solitude. But the Master makes use of it, embracing his aloneness, realising he is one with the whole universe.”
These words, given by Chinese Philosopher Lao Tzu, inspired me to write this Haiku:
A day will come
When I’ll not roam
Seeking Happiness and Serendipity.
That day, I’ll surely come home.
Brightening my place
With all the required grace.
You know now. Create a Niche. Find YOUR solace, in solitude or otherwise. Help People. Be sane and insane at the same time :)
P.S. — Have you ever heard of the concept of “Melancholy Bliss”? If not, check my piece out: The Pursuit. Life is all about the pursuit of… | by Krutikashri | Medium